Saunders: Even for high school students, domestic violence is a big issue

Saunders: Even for high school students, domestic violence is a big issue
It may be time to add another “r”: right cross, as in the kind too many high school girls have to duck when their boyfriends become violent.

It’s mind-blowing to even think about, but some girls in high school are having to learn to do that at an age when their main concerns should be which gown to wear to the prom or where they’ll go to college.
 Ritu Kaur, a director of training and education for InterAct, a local group that works to help women extricate themselves from abusive relationships by providing shelter and information, said one in 10 girls in high school has been physically abused by a boyfriend. Even more have been verbally, emotionally or psychologically abused.

I talked to Kaur and Laura Hilton, InterAct’s director of community education, Wednesday at a march the group held in downtown Raleigh to commemorate the six women in Wake County who’ve been killed by husbands or boyfriends since May.

Hilton said that girls who are abused in high school are more likely to be abused as adults. Equally distressing is the realization that abusive dudes who can’t control their rage but want to control their high school sweethearts will continue abusing, too.

Abuse, a study cited by Kaur shows, is a despicable gift that keeps on giving. So, ladies, despite your mate’s tearful pleas, promises to never do it again and flowers, if he hits you once he is going to hit you again — unless he seeks professional help.

That’s precisely what one man did after reading the column I wrote last week about domestic violence.

‘He wants ... help’

Leigh Duque, InterAct’s executive director, told me that “a well-dressed, well-spoken, quiet-mannered man walked into InterAct and told us he is a perpetrator of domestic violence. That’s by no means a usual occurrence. ... We provide a lifeline of support for victims of domestic and sexual violence, but we are not a provider of services for abusers.

“As a direct result of reading your column, he’s identified his own behavior as abusive – and he wants to own it, get help, and change. We were able to connect him with the support he needs to take those steps.”

Erika Martin of Enloe High School knows more about domestic violence than any 18-year-old should. “Two of my friends were physically abused” and others were verbally abused, she said

Both types leave scars, although one leaves the type you can’t see.

That’s why, Martin said, Enloe’s Student Council is sponsoring a charity ball Saturday to raise money for InterAct.

Rumors say that she will tie the knot with Siddharth Roy Kapur

Rumours of Vidya Balan getting married to Siddharth Roy Kapur have resurfaced. Reports say that Vidya and the UTV top boss will tie the knot around December 18. It has also been said that Vidya's close friend, fashion designer Sabyasachi Mukherjee, has been roped in to design her wedding trousseau.



Though Vidya and her beau have not responded to the rumours, flower girl dress organza jewel close friends say that they are seriously considering to settle down as soon as possible.



Vidya and Siddharth have acknowledged their relationship in public. When a story of them being married already was reported in August last year, Siddharth had denied the news simply stating, "Nope, not true."



However, this time he is keeping mum. Is that just an admission of the news or is be bored of the rumours?

From:http://www.masala.com/

War veteran celebrates his 100th birthday at a Ewell care home

A man who fought with Monty in World War II celebrated his 100th birthday on Friday.
Jack Richardson fought at El Alamein, in Egypt, where victory over Rommel's forces marked a turning point in the Western Desert Campaign.
On Friday a party was held for Mr Richardson at the Elders Care Home, in Epsom Road, Ewell, where his wife Lillian turned 100 in 2010 shortly before her death.
The couple, who met on holiday on the Isle of Wight and tied the knot in 1938, had celebrated their 72nd wedding anniversary together at the home maternity wedding dresses.

He joined the Territorial Army and soon after the couple settled in Ifield transferred to the Royal Artillery at the start of the Second World War.
He fought with the Eight Army, nicknamed the Desert Rats, at El Alamein where he remembers being sceptical about General Montgomery's decision at one stage to send in all the reserves - although it paid off.
Promoted to sergeant, he was away from home for five years and when he was demobbed returned, aged 33, with no qualifications, no job and just a kit bag on his shoulder.
But at last he was reunited with his beloved wife.
Born into a poor family in Clapham, at the age of 14 he had gone to work as a clerk at a chartered accountants and in his forties he passed the exams necessary to become an accountant.

The couple lived in Meadow Walk, Ewell, for 40 years before moving into Elders Care Home in 2005.
In a speech on Friday, the care manager’s husband John Mills said: "Jack is well loved here at the Elders and a wonderful person.
"He is the most kind, friendly and interesting person to have graced these walls, a credit to the home and is just how a true gentleman should be.
"Long live Jack."

From:http://www.thisislocallondon.co.uk/

Carrie Ann Inaba’s Blog: Dressing Up for a Sick Day

We’ve had lots of fun hearing about Carrie Ann Inaba‘s stunning Dancing with the Stars ensembles, and today, the judge gives us the exclusive details on what she wore Monday night – and how it helped her get through a bought with the flu (get well soon!):
This week: two dances in one! The fusion dance! And no elimination this week … because of the election. So don’t forget to get out there and make your votes count!
Unfortunately, Monday night, I wasn’t feeling 100 percent — there is bug going around and it bit me. So I needed a dress that would help me feel the best I could feel, all things considered. I had done an appearance on Saturday with Tom Bergeron at America’s Funniest Home Videos and on my way home got very sick and ended up spending the rest of the weekend in bed. I think it was just a flu bug, but it was still lingering on me Monday so I needed every boost I could get. So, I chose this beautiful purple hope wedding dress.
According to a website I often frequent about colors and their meaning (I redecorate a lot), purple is the color of good judgment. It is also the combination of both the cool tones of its blue base and the warmth and heat of its red base. It’s often been called a perfect color because it brings both sides of the spectrum together, and is often associated with the color of royalty.
It’s not an expensive dress; it’s designed by Adrianna Papell and runs for about $170 in the deeper plum color. I haven’t seen the exact price for this one since it’s a sample, but the color is what sold me on it. On the show, I like to wear a mixture of couture and affordable dresses. It keeps it fun … and it keeps things in perspective. I liked the softness of this one-shoulder dress — it was quite feminine and flowy. And the color felt regal.

The jewels were a lot of fun; [stylist] Kit Scarbo pulled some Erica Courtney jewelry for the evening. My yellow-gold earrings had 2.46 karats of white diamonds with coral drops surrounded by blue sapphires. I also wore three rings: one with 11.28 carats of amethyst placed in yellow gold, a yellow gold fleur-de-lis with 6.46 carats of opal and 1.24 carats of white diamonds and finally a carved pink coral rose ring valued at $9,600. (Editor’s note: Jealous!)
[Hair and makeup artists] Anna Maria and Jojo worked extra hard to get me show-ready and I appreciate the boost. We did a side-swept ‘do to go with the one-shoulder neckline of the dress and used a variety of iron sizes to get the curls loose and free looking. Jojo did a nice smoky eye thanks to our Tom Ford kit of eye shadows, plus a neutral lip. I wore some fun eyelashes, from Adoro, a brand you may never have heard of. We did a double lash, meaning two of them on each eye. Sometimes it adds to the effect. Just a little trick of the trade to share …
Hope you enjoyed the show and my fashion choice last night. Don’t forget to get out there and vote today. God bless you and we’ll see you next week.
–Carrie Anna Inaba

From:http://stylenews.peoplestylewatch.com/

Four killed in violence plagued Karachi

Karachi—At least four people were killed including a child while five sustained severe injuries in separate incidents of violence here on Monday. According to police sources some unknown criminals shot dead one man in the jurisdiction of Jackson police station in Kimari. On getting information police reached the spot and shifted the dead body to Jinnah hospital for autopsy. Later on, police identified the deceased namely Rustum khan (40).

Police claimed that the deceased was the resident of Kimari. In other incident, in the area of Liaquat Abad three children were severely wounded in aerial firing incident in wedding ceremony at Bandhane colony. Later on, they were shifted to Abbasi shaheed hospital for medical aid where 12 years old Nabeel succumbed to injuries and died in hospital. The injured children 10 years old Malik and 14 years old Arshad are also in hospital in critical condition. Meanwhile, after the incident police arrested the six personals involve in firing incident. Police registered the case and started thorough investigation.

Muhammad Nawaz security guard was gunned down outside the fast food restaurant situated in Defence Phase 6 due to other security guard firing. Later on, police arrested the private company security guard and recovered weapon from him. Police claimed that the incident was occurred owing to personal dispute and started thorough investigation. In another incident police found the dead body of a man in Nazimabad near inquiry office while one man sustained severe injuries during robbery resistance.—Online

From:http://pakobserver.net/

Making dreams come true

Everything a bride- and groom-to-be need to plan their lives together is available right here in Thunder Bay, from dresses to financial planning homecoming dress shop online .
More than 100 companies and services were at the annual Wedding Wishes Formal Affair on Sunday to give couples planning to get married a comprehensive look at all facets of planning weddings, honeymoons and securing their futures together.
The Valhalla Inn was a hive of activity with hundreds of people perusing what the vendors had to offer and taking time to enjoy six fashion shows from local clothiers and boutiques, and two dance demonstrations by World Dance Centre.
“This is a one-stop shopping experience for all those who are planning their big day,” show manager Nancy Milani said in an interview.
“We have pretty much everything a bridal party needs to plan that perfect wedding, no matter where or when it is going to happen.”
Interest in planning larger, more elaborate weddings and destination weddings have grown in popularity. Milani said the wedding business has been picking up since the recession and couples want to have that dream wedding day.
She also attributed reality TV for the upswing in bigger weddings.
“There are so many shows out there and people see these big ceremonies and they want that too,” she said.
There was a draw for a $15,000 grand prize wedding package.
Creating and planning an elaborate wedding can be overwhelming for many couples. Professional planners like Bethanie Kramer, owner of You’re Invited Wedding and Event Consulting, said many couples start planning up to two years in advance and the cost can average $20,000 to $30,000 for the wedding day.
“It’s been a growing industry and it’s a service that has been growing in Thunder Bay,” she said.
“We are letting people know that there is help out there. Coming to this show can be overwhelming and I help them keep track of the planning and help them make sense of everything they are going to see.”
Kramer said she’s noticed more people are applying for marriage licences and coming to her with their ideas.
She said with more people planning marriages, they don’t want just a simple ceremony, they want to have fun.
There are so many options to choose from, including themes and destination weddings. She said she is currently working with a bride who wants a night club theme for her wedding. Destination weddings have become popular because they are a ceremony and vacation in one. Many resorts have planners on site to make the ceremony easy to organize.
While weddings are steeped in tradition, there are trends that follow the latest fashions and the reality of the times.
The all-important bridal dress has gone through many changes, said Josy Vaillant of Irma’s Bridal Boutique. She said some traditions have endured, like all-white dresses and veils, but the styles have changed to fit with modern tastes.
“This year, we are seeing a lot more mermaid-style gowns, lots of pearls, shimmer and various shades of white, from pearl, to mocha,” Vaillant said.
“More brides are also asking for sleeves, or false sleeves because of Kate Middleton’s wedding dress, they want that same style, too.”
How dresses are designed is often a reflection of attitudes toward protocol.
Vaillant said that before the 1970s, brides were expected to be fully covered from head to toe to reflect the “virginal” look. During and after the 1970s and into the ’90s, puffy sleeves and sleeker dresses became popular. By the 1990s sleeveless dresses became standard issue in bridal shops.
“Most weddings and receptions happen at night and brides wanted a sleeveless gown for a more elegant look,” she said.
Another tradition changing with the times is the gift registry.
Couples still want to make gift selection easy for their guests, but the reasons may be different.
Richard Koskiniemi of The Kitchen Nook, which offers a bridal registry, was showcasing items that couples may want, from the practical to the more elaborate.
With gift registries, couples choose what items they want and make the list available to their guests so they can choose what to buy.
“In a store like ours, because we are so diverse, they are looking for practical things they can really use, like microwave and dishwasher safe tableware,” Koskiniemi said.
People are also getting married later in life, which can influence what they choose for their registry, he said.
A more mature couple may already have an established household, so they might choose something like the Tiffany line of stemware, or something they wouldn’t normally buy themselves.
“We can fill both sectors,” he said.

From：http://www.chroniclejournal.com/

Drew R. Mulhearn, 27

SOUTH YARMOUTH — Drew R. Mulhearn, 27, of South Yarmouth, died Saturday, Oct. 27, 2012, from a terrible accident, yet at the end Drew passed peacefully, surrounded by his family.

Drew was born in Worcester, one of two sons, to Patricia McNamara Mulhearn and Richard Mulhearn. Throughout his life, he had a very special bond and attachment with his older brother, Adam Mulhearn. Drew was fittingly the best man at Adam's wedding. Several years ago, Drew was fortunate to find the love of his life, his wife and friend Evelina Todorova-Mulhearn.

Drew graduated from Dennis-Yarmouth Regional High School and went on to graduate from Massachusetts Maritime Academy. He was an engineer in the Merchant Marine.

Drew was an exceptionally bright man with a heart of gold. He loved the sea, and the excitement of the world that he spent his life exploring. He loved engineering. He loved fixing things and understanding the intricacies of how the physics of nature made things work together. No project was too hard to take on and he found great joy in understanding and using his profound talents to find the right solutions. He was active and spent every active moment exploring what life had to offer.

He loved the outdoors and the wonderful discoveries life had to offer. He loved to think about things and discuss life. He cared deeply about others and had a knack for understanding people. He was generous to a fault and very kind and sweet. He was hard working and extremely creative. His sense of humor was profound and a blessing to those around him. Most of all, Drew was a man who really cared about his family.

When Drew wasn't off to sea in his new maritime career, he and his wife split their time living in New Hampshire with his brother Adam and sister-in law Lisa, helping them with a total makeover of their new home, and the rest of the time living at his mother Patricia's home in South Yarmouth.

Drew will be sorely missed and remembered by the many he left behind, including his devoted and loving wife, Evelina Todorova-Mulhearn; loving mother Patricia McNamara Mulhearn; proud father Richard Mulhearn; proud and devoted brother and friend Adam Mulhearn; caring friend and sister-in-law Lisa Mulhearn; caring friend and stepmom Lynn Mulhearn; loving grandmother Dorothy McNamara Mulhearn; and parents-in-law, uncles, aunts, nieces, nephews, cousins, second cousins, and friends too numerous to mention here but just as important.

Drew entered this world prematurely, a premature baby, and he left this world much, much too soon. Drew is and will always be loved.

Visiting hours will be held from 2 to 4 and 6 to 8 p.m. Friday, Nov. 2, 2012, at the Hallett Funeral Home, 273 Station Ave., South Yarmouth. A funeral Mass will be held at 10 a.m. Saturday, Nov. 3, at Saint Pius X Church, Station Avenue, South Yarmouth. Interment will follow in Woodside Cemetery, Yarmouthport.

Donations in Drew's memory may be made to MSPCA, 1577 Falmouth Road, Centerville, MA 02632; or to Animal Rescue League of Boston, Route 6A, Brewster, MA 02631.

From：http://www.capecodonline.com/